Surprisingly, just a few actions performed in the morning can indicate unprocessed trauma and unlived pain.
Below you will find tips that will help you track your routine and, as a result, get rid of what spoils your mood in the morning and poisons your life day after day.
Social media right after waking up
If you pick up your phone and open social media right after waking up, things are bad. It’s likely that you’re suffering from trauma, which manifests itself in constantly comparing yourself to others – to those same successful, happy, and flawless inhabitants of social media.
Typically, this behavior occurs as a result of neglect received from parents in childhood, as well as in the case of inconsistent emotional reactions of adults.
If you were compared to other children as a child, you may now be subconsciously striving to outdo everyone you see, and your self-worth is determined by whether you "win" or "lose" in these comparisons.
Self-criticism in front of the mirror
It is quite normal to go to the mirror after waking up. But it is worth keeping track of what thoughts visit you at this moment.
There are two options here: “the fairest of them all” or a stream of furious criticism about extra pounds, a pimple that has popped up, hair that isn’t thick enough, etc.
Criticism of appearance may be related to situations in the past when self-esteem was determined by the perception of one's own body.
Laziness
Or maybe you are too lazy to do everything in the morning: brush your teeth, make your bed, cook breakfast? Psychologists associate this phenomenon, again, with past experience - such behavior is typical for people who grew up in conditions of constant criticism and now feel a fear of failure.
Previously, we talked about why you can’t ignore depression .
