Self-esteem is how we evaluate ourselves.
I recommend moving away from a judgmental attitude towards yourself and others. It is better to cultivate self-worth in yourself.
This is when we know ourselves and see our successes and achievements. In this way you will learn to value and love yourself.
And, as a result, those around you will also appreciate and love you, says Ksenia Sysoeva .
Ways to Increase Self-Esteem
1. Recognize that our self-esteem does not depend on others. It often seems that my self-esteem is low because I am devalued. Realize that self-esteem is our responsibility and only we can influence it. Make a decision to increase it.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others. It's easy to say, but not so easy to do. It's important to recognize that we are all different, unique, no two people are alike. Everyone has their own talents and characteristics. It never occurs to anyone to compare a bulldog with a rhinoceros and say that one is worse or better.
3. Sit down and write down all your achievements, successes, skills, what you have done or are doing. At first glance, it seems that we know everything about ourselves, but the point of the exercise is to write it down and see it from the outside.
The main thing is to write down everything you can remember. For example, you learned to read at 6 years old, you know how to find a common language with people, you took 3rd place in a school Olympiad, etc. You will see how many achievements and skills you have.
4. Learn to notice compliments and recognition from other people in life. When they tell you: "You're so good at this" - don't brush it off, but hear and feel that it is so, this is your strength.
5. Stop picking on yourself and humiliating yourself. There is always someone's voice inside us (usually a parent's). For example, when something didn't work out in childhood, we could be scolded and told: "How is that possible? You always fail at everything!"
Later we get used to it and the reaction of "finding fault" with ourselves is immediately triggered inside us. It is important to learn not to humiliate, but to support. In any situation, be on your side, be for yourself. There are already many around who will point out your shortcomings.
Earlier we talked about an unusual but effective way that will allow you to become smarter.
Expert: Beautiful (Sysoeva) Ksenia
