It's amazing how a woman can be a wonderful mother to her son and a terrible mother-in-law to her daughter-in-law.
If you don’t want to find yourself in a similar situation, listen to the rules in this article – they will help you become a beloved and respected mother not only for your child, but also for his wife.
1. The first thing you have to do is accept that your son now loves his wife more than you. This means that he is happy, and this is exactly what you want for your child.
2. A young couple may be busy, and this is completely normal - do not expect them to sit in your company for hours, and you will not be disappointed.
3. If you are going to visit, take food with you: perhaps your son and his wife had a lot of troubles and did not have time to prepare for your visit.
4. Stop comparing your family with other people's - you will never know how things really are.
5. Don’t point out the mistakes children have made – this is their experience, so the best solution is tactful silence.
6. Offer your help – for example, babysitting grandchildren – this way you will provide invaluable support to the young family.
7. Are you missing your family? Invite them over, and if they refuse your invitation, don't take it to heart - invite them again a week later. It's quite possible that they had a lot of urgent matters to attend to, and that's why they couldn't drop by for a visit.
8. Accept the fact that your daughter-in-law is a very ordinary woman and you won’t be able to brag about her achievements to your neighbors. She may even be a little boring or annoying, but that’s how your son loves her.
9. To avoid interfering in your son's life, find something to occupy yourself with. It could be a new hobby or even a man. See your child's departure into his own life as a chance to take care of yourself.
10. Don't give unsolicited advice - as a rule, it ends in tears and resentment on both sides.
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