On the way to achieving a goal, a person faces many obstacles in the form of low motivation, laziness, inability to plan and unexpected circumstances.
Anna Zhustal, psychologist, author of the book on self-development “Inevitable Happiness”, told how to endure and reach the end: strategies for achieving a goal.
How to endure and reach the end
Before you set a goal, you need to figure it out and understand whether these are really your true desires.
Often, the thirst for material goods can be based on self-doubt, lack of love from the world, and even self-loathing. If you go to achieve results from a deficit of these feelings, you may get what you wanted, but it will not make you happy.
A professional coach or psychologist can help you determine the truth of your goals and desires.
You can do this on your own, but you will have to look deep inside yourself and ask yourself many leading questions: “What will change in my life when I achieve this goal?”, “What emotions will I experience from achieving the goal?”, “Is this really my goal, and not one imposed by my environment or society as a whole?” etc.
Once you decide whether you really need it, it is important to formulate the goal correctly. Already at this step, many make mistakes by using extremely vague concepts.
Incorrect: "Next year I want to improve my health." Correct: "I want to lose weight to 60 kg, normalize blood pressure, and get my teeth treated." Next, you need to set clear deadlines for when the goal should be achieved. For example: "The desired weight must be reached by May 1."
It is also important to set realistic goals. If you currently weigh 120 kg, then losing half of your weight in 4-5 months is unlikely. This will affect your health, psyche, and destroy further motivation if you fail to achieve it.
Once you have formulated a goal, break it down into specific tasks. For example, make an appointment with a therapist, make an appointment with a dentist, start going to a fitness center, establish proper nutrition. Set specific dates.
Think right away about how you will work with “objections” - with obstacles that arise along the way that will demotivate you.
For example, ask your family not to buy sweets, instead of group classes, choose a personal trainer who will monitor your visits to the fitness center.
Be sure to record even the smallest positive results. And reward yourself for this with something. For example, if you have treated all your teeth, you buy a beautiful lipstick. If you have lost 5 kg, you go to the theater in a beautiful dress.
