Let's look at a working strategy for setting life goals, and most importantly, a strategy for achieving them.
Psychologist Natalia Vorobyova told how to achieve life goals: strategies.
The most important thing is that the goal we set for ourselves should inspire, i.e. imagining its achievement, we feel obvious satisfaction and joy.
Set the bar high, don't go small. Below we'll discuss how to calm your brain and reduce anxiety from the scale and seeming unattainability, so as not to give up on your goal without taking the first step.
The first thing you need to do is to outline the intermediate stages. To do this, you need to ask yourself: how will I know that I am moving in the right direction?
What smaller tasks will I complete that will bring me closer to the Big Goal? Our brain fears ambiguity and uncertainty the most, and by showing it the intended path, we greatly reduce anxiety and increase the chances of success.
The second step will be to make a list of these tasks. It is necessary to understand that in the process this list can be either expanded or reduced, and everything is in order with this. After the list is made, we think through the maximum possible risks.
The risk of procrastination, devaluation, resistance also needs to be taken into account. Just understand and accept that such feelings can and most likely will arise. If you have a reliable, supportive partner next to you - that's great, you are very lucky.
If there is no such person, then there are many techniques on how to support yourself in such a situation. Contacting a psychologist or coach is also one of the tools.
The third important condition is to note each positive result. We notice it, we record it in our head. In the process of the path, you can not notice how much has already been done and achieved, this is a big mistake. Therefore, it is important to evaluate the path taken.
Acknowledging your victories is good fuel for achieving new ones. Realizing that nothing is perfect greatly reduces anxiety and the desire to procrastinate.
And fourth, be understanding and respectful of your own pace. Comparing yourself to others, especially at the beginning of your journey, can be very demotivating and cause you to give up on your goal. Setbacks and pauses are normal.
It is important not to get stuck in them, but to give yourself a break, look back at the amount of work already done, and continue moving. Take the next step.
