What to do if you want to fall in love: talk to your 100-year-old self

07.01.2025 13:36

Don't think that love will find you itself - it really does happen, but only sometimes, so it is more of an exception than a rule.

Here's why you shouldn't sit back and wait - instead, take a few steps towards your happiness.

Talk to your 100 year old self

People looking for love often overestimate superficial and short-term factors like the proverbial "butterflies in the stomach."

To avoid falling into this trap, ask your 100-year-old self questions.

How could your life have turned out? Why did you choose this particular partner? What qualities do you value in your loved one?

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This may result in thoughts of deep affection, reliability, trust, etc. Focus on these qualities now as you search for love.

Highlight the main features of your partner

We are not talking about appearance now, but about such permanent character traits as, for example, a sense of humor or kindness.

Identify 3-4 qualities that your partner should have - when you know exactly what you need, it will become easier for you to notice it in another person.

Think about yourself

It's time to focus on how you want to feel around your partner.

For example, it is important for you to feel safe, or you would like your partner to sincerely admire you.

This outside perspective will allow you to consider options that you had previously ignored.

Register on a dating site

Make your dating profile unique - let the one who is right for you love you for your individuality.

Don't get stuck on one type

It is very possible that you will not succeed if you always choose partners of the same type. Expand your search and look for people who, although they do not correspond to your ideal appearance, have the features that you have identified for yourself.

Elena Shimanovskaya Author: Elena Shimanovskaya Editor of Internet resources


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  1. Talk to your 100 year old self
  2. Highlight the main features of your partner
  3. Think about yourself
  4. Register on a dating site
  5. Don't get stuck on one type