After a divorce or separation, some people choose to abruptly disappear from the lives of their former partners and cut off all contact with them.
In psychology, this behavior is called "ghosting." The term comes from the word ghost. According to research, ghosting negatively affects emotional state and reduces self-esteem.
Instead of ghosting, psychologists advise using “caspering” – a different strategy for behavior after a breakup.
As the name suggests, it is associated with Casper, the good ghost from the American film.
Caspering differs from ghosting in that it involves gradually reducing contact with your ex-partner.
In this way, the person seems to disappear from the life of his/her former lover, leaving no trace of his/her presence.
According to experts, this and open dialogue are the main conditions for a peaceful separation.
As a result of its use, you will not traumatize the psyche of either yourself or your ex-partner and, quite possibly, you will remain good friends.
For reference
Ghosting is the abrupt termination of any relationship without warning or explanation of possible reasons.
