The ancient proverb about patience and love does not stand up to criticism in modern society.
Experts say that if a marriage is falling apart, there is nothing to save. There is also no point in trying to renew a relationship with an ex.
Moreover, there are several reasons when such a decision cannot be justified even by love.
First, manipulation and gaslighting
If the partner was constantly trying to set up the woman, make her doubt her assessment of the situation and shifted responsibility onto her, then all this indicates that the relationship was built on deception.
You can't go back to a man like that.
Secondly, unhealthy criticism
Criticism can be constructive, but if it comes from a man on a regular basis, then the gentleman clearly has problems with self-esteem and is asserting himself at someone else’s expense.
Thirdly, betrayal
Frequent or one-time, accidental or intentional - it doesn't matter if in each case the man swore that it would not happen again and again took up the old.
Fourthly, does not keep promises
A man can talk beautifully, but at the same time do nothing, waiting for a favorable combination of circumstances, better times, or something else special.
It is possible that the next promise at the time of the conclusion of peace will remain an oral statement.
Fifth, repentance and forgiveness
A man who is unable to ask forgiveness even for what he is guilty of is not trustworthy. It is difficult to add anything else.
Sixth, “yours – mine – ours”
Issues of property and financial well-being cannot be ignored. If a man is not ready to bear common expenses, if he splits the check and cares primarily only about himself, then it is unlikely that he will agree to make even minor concessions in the future.
Seventh, attention and compassion
It is not only external well-being that is important to a woman, but she also wants to have someone nearby who will listen, advise, and sympathize.
In such cases, a woman, making concessions for the sake of love, risks being trapped again, and no agreements will help her in the future.
