Why People Are In No Hurry to Break Up with Their Abusive Partners: A Psychologist's Conclusions

08.05.2024 14:54

It's always easier to recognize an abusive relationship when you're not in it - that's how abuse works.

Some people can suffer from their partners' actions for years without leaving them. ADVICE.NEWS has figured out why this happens.

Here are some reasons why this happens more often than we would like.

Fear of harm

People may fear that if they leave, their partner will hurt them or someone they care about.

Fear of physical or emotional harm can make release difficult.

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Insulation

Abusers often isolate their partners from friends and family, making them feel like they have no one to turn to for help.

Without support, leaving an abusive partner can seem even more difficult.

Financial dependence

Some people rely on their abusive partner for money.

They may worry about how they will support themselves or their children if they leave, especially if they do not have a job or financial independence.

Guilt and shame

Abusers often manipulate their partners by making them feel guilty or ashamed.

Victims may blame themselves for the abuse or fear judgment from others, making it difficult to seek help or leave.

Hope for change

Many victims believe that their partner will change or that the abuse is temporary.

There is always hope that everything will get better, especially if the offender apologizes or promises to change.

Cultural or religious factors

Cultural or religious beliefs can play a significant role.

Some people fear judgment from their community or religious leaders if they leave a marriage or relationship.

Low self-esteem

Abusers often undermine their partner's self-esteem.

Victims may believe they don't deserve better or worry that they won't find love elsewhere, which increases feelings of helplessness.

Lack of resources

Limited access to resources such as shelters or legal assistance can make it difficult to "escape."

Without a safe place to go or advice on legal action, people can feel trapped.

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Elena Shimanovskaya Author: Elena Shimanovskaya Editor of Internet resources


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  1. Fear of harm
  2. Insulation
  3. Financial dependence
  4. Guilt and shame
  5. Hope for change
  6. Cultural or religious factors
  7. Low self-esteem
  8. Lack of resources