The time of love and romantic dreams is coming into its own, and it is not only lonely people who want to experience the excitement of the heart again in the spring.
For those who have memories of unhealthy relationships, such emotions cause fear of running into an abuser again. There is nothing to be afraid of – you just need to be careful.
Experts have revealed the signs that indicate an abuser and allow you to identify the “enemy” on the first date.
First, equality
It's almost like the slogan of the French revolutionaries and their followers, calling for liberty, equality and fraternity. But in our case, everything is even simpler: relations should develop according to the formula 50/50.
This means that both partners must remain equal. No one belittles or exalts the other.
On a first date, you should be wary of qualities such as condescension or worthlessness, when your new acquaintance tries to follow you around.
Secondly, personal space
Trying to cross boundaries on a first date is also a warning sign.
This attempt can manifest itself not only in an attempt to achieve intimacy, but also in such trifles as an attempt to take on all the expenses, even if you decided to buy a glass of sunflower seeds from your grandmother.
Thirdly, past experience
You can learn a lot of interesting things here. Be attentive when your partner starts talking about their relationships with their parents, relatives and their "exes".
If you hear a lot of negativity or complaints, then be prepared for the hero of the new novel to drag all this toxic “baggage” into your new life.
Conclusion
If already on the first date you felt care at the level of control or an attempt to please you, despite childish whims and pranks, then most likely you are dealing with an abuser who has already begun to weave his web around you.
Earlier we talked about the signs of a close relationship .
