An abuser can show himself in the most innocent actions, but then expect a bolt from the blue.
At first, the phrases “silly” or “silly girl” may often be heard in everyday life, but in reality this is not a diminutive form, but the first signs of superiority.
Experts have talked about innocent forms of abusive relationships, to which the victim easily and quickly gets used and does not notice the essence.
1. After the victim gets used to the cute insults, phrases like “you always set me up” or “what would you do without me” will start to be heard.
These are quite harmless words, but the partner, getting used to them, begins to feel worthless and helpless, and sees the other half as a savior.
2. “Others are already turning over millions” – get ready to hear these words when you share the good news about a promotion or a salary increase with a dyed-in-the-wool tyrant.
An analogy might be the advice not to waste "time on nonsense" when you share your interests with your partner.
3. And if one of these phrases is said in society, the abuser will quickly justify himself, saying that “nothing terrible happened,” even if the insult was said among family or friends. And really, they are still his own…
4. Gradually, your relationship will come down to the point that when you pick up the phone, instead of the familiar "hello" you will hear: "Where are you? Why don't you answer right away?"
5. After this, don’t be surprised if you find your partner rummaging through your phone or purse, saying “What’s so special about that?” or asking for the password to your accounts.
Previously we talked about how friendship arises and when it ends .
