Remember any situation when you were too lazy to do something: “I should do it, but I’m so lazy.”
If you pay more attention to what is actually happening to you at this moment, you will discover that behind the state of unwillingness to do something, laziness, there is some kind of feeling and a completely different sensation, says the psychologist Ulyana Zavyalova .
Laziness does not exist in adults or children! Laziness is depression
For example, you don't want to do something not because you're lazy, but because you're just really tired. Or there are a lot of worries inside that take up your attention and energy, so it's as if there's no energy for the action that needs to be done right now.
Or there is a strong anxiety about something inside, which actually slows down and freezes you from doing anything. Or maybe you are sad or upset because of some trifle that does not seem so significant at first glance. But there is an experience inside, it is heavy and oppressive so much that it stops you from doing anything.
Inside, these states and feelings are present, but they are restrained; for some reason, you do not admit them to yourself, then outwardly you can say, “I seem to be okay,” although inside this is completely not the case.
Laziness in itself, because of which we do not do what we should, what we planned, does not exist.
What should you do if you have considered yourself a lazy person up to this point, or if someone suddenly calls you that?
First. In a state of laziness, try asking yourself: "What am I feeling right now?" You will discover that behind any task that you are supposedly too lazy to do, there is actually some feeling. The state of laziness is an unconscious cover for suppressed, that is, restrained, unrecognized sensations and states.
You don’t want to do something not because you are lazy or were born that way, most likely, the truth will be that at this moment you feel somehow, you sense something completely different.
For example, you are inactive not because you are lazy, but because you are simply tired. Or maybe you perform daily actions that you cannot stand, then you have to restrain your dislike, or even hatred for work.
There is a certain experience inside you, and it is this experience, being not obvious, not conscious, that stops you.
Second. There is always some need behind the detected feeling or state. Think about what it could be in your case. Internal experiences (irritation, sadness, anxiety) often require release.
Perhaps you need to share these experiences with someone, so that they listen to you, understand you, support you. Or your need is to change jobs to a new one, and then laziness here serves as a kind of cover, so as not to admit it and not change anything in this matter.
Third. Give yourself what you need in full or at least in part. If your inner experiences are stronger than they seemed at first glance, seek support from loved ones or a psychologist.
To feel better, having received emotional discharge. Or to learn more complete contact with yourself, then natural forces and energy will flow easily, freely to everything you want.