The beginning of a romantic relationship is a period of special testing. Lovers rejoice in new feelings, while simultaneously testing the waters.
Men and women equally want to make sure that they have made the right choice. But ladies are more cunning and use one insidious trick designed to recognize a mercantile personality.
It can be called a trap, since the question from the lady's mouth does not have a specific template. The point is to skillfully disguise it and use it at the most appropriate moment, says psychologist Stanislav Sambursky .
But there is still a factor of consistency. The question is imbued with irony or a joke. A woman knows that asking a man about his income or generosity is extremely dangerous. Therefore, she does it playfully and surreptitiously, in order to retreat in time, avoiding negative consequences: "Oh, what are you saying! I was just joking."
Of course, I wasn't joking. At this point, the partner's behavior is analyzed: is he honest, superficial, or ready for a serious relationship, is he a narcissist, etc.
The woman seizes the moment and asks a controversial question. For example: "Are you more generous or greedy?" The catch is that it is difficult to answer. Everyone has different criteria for generosity, and the situation itself is perplexing.
The lady hopes to hear the answer and interpret it in her favor. The main thing is to check for greed. Should she expect gifts and material signs of attention? No one needs a greedy person. If this vice is confirmed, this will be the last date.
But the more pleasant answer: "Yes, I am generous" is not the end of the tricky test. The answer inspires, and now the woman is looking for a moment to prove it. Almost immediately she can ask for a gift, and an expensive one at that.
Is it reasonable for a man to give in to such provocations on the first or second date? Of course not. It is important for him to realize in time that if the girl has tried to manipulate him now, then this is normal for her. And being under the power of even “cute” manipulations is quite unpleasant.
Still, if a girl asks such a question, it does not mean that she is 100% cunning. She meets a nice man, feels reciprocity and, of course, wants a relationship with him. But she does not want to waste her precious time on a real tightwad.
A normal person, no matter how dumbfounded he is, will never answer this question seriously. The best way to avoid the reception is to answer irony with irony or change the subject.
