Friends and good acquaintances make up the meaning of modern human communication. Since a person is a conventionally “social animal” and cannot live without communication, people at the subconscious level strive to create, consolidate, preserve and increase the pool of contacts – friends and girlfriends.
And vice versa, what upsets people most is the loss of not only material assets, but also friends, the loss or reduction in the quality of relationships with them, explains psychologist Andrei Kashkarov .
The decline in the quality of relationships occurs from inattention to the other, that is, from the prevailing narcissism of a person or his passion for the implementation of his own selfish task - until the result, and in the process of such movement, a conflict of interests with friends and comrades often arises.
A conventional narcissist is always visible both in conversation and behavior. The pronoun "I" "crawls out" very often. I just want to put a social mirror in front of him with the title "I am a spray head".
One of the common examples of narcissism or inattention is when one congratulates another on the holidays, and in response there is "silence" - does not know or does not remember, or does not want to know. It is clear that such friendly relations will not last long.
Try to avoid debt obligations. This advice is too hackneyed, everyone knows it.
Try to be modest. It decorates and knocks out the ground for outside envy. Do not present your achievements, although this advice will seem strange to many readers and may be untimely, because in social networks many people present the signboard of vanity. And people do not fully realize that it is quite possible to live without it, and moreover, having high-quality results of growth and development.
Don't demand much from others. Don't judge them directly or behind the scenes. As a rule, no one likes criticism. And vice versa, be considerate of others and modest. "A person's good behavior is always visible: he doesn't eat, doesn't drink, but is full." The author of this wisdom is N. V. Gogol.
People like this are always and everywhere loved, because they are unobtrusive and do not demand anything. And this is important, because a modern person is mainly busy with himself. According to the world-famous writer John Fowles: “At 18, you care what people think of you; at 40, you don’t care what people think of you; at 60, you already know that no one thought about you at all.”
The main thing is important. In order not to lose friends, you need to build smooth relationships and react adequately. In this way, you maintain interest in yourself and get something (what you need) from the other.
