Love, especially true love, is complex and energy-consuming, but at the same time a wonderful feeling.
Psychologist Gleb Trufanov told what true love feels like.
Love is a field of realization of two people. It solves the need for closeness, support, makes the path of life easier and gives a sense of certainty and security.
Like everything in our life, it does not come immediately, but is the product of labor and the development of relationships between people, in this case two people.
Do not confuse infatuation or passion with true love, it is much more complex and develops over time.
Love implies, first of all, building a constructive dialogue between people, thanks to which the difference in the perception of the world by each of the partners turns not into a catastrophe, but into a solvable problem.
Undoubtedly, conflicts are the companions of any human interaction, but the quality and strength of our relationships with people directly depend on our ability to work on their resolution.
So what does true love look like?
- The ability to express your feelings and emotions.
Who wants to read hints or become a professional at reading body language and hidden emotions? Being direct will allow you to convey to your partner what you are not happy with.
And the ability to express it in words will serve as an excellent channel for transmitting information. There is no need to tolerate discomfort in relationships, it should be overcome together through conversations.
By speaking frankly and calling on our partner to solve the problem collectively, we can constructively work through differences and resolve the conflict.
- Respect for other people's boundaries.
Each person has an individual circle of personal topics and questions that is sensitive in terms of the presence of certain psychological traumas from the past, values, and ideals.
Careless remarks, ridicule - all this can harm a person and make him doubt his trust in his partner.
- Acceptance.
All people are different: they have their own interests, hobbies, their own vision of the world, perception of others and themselves in this world.
The absence of attempts to remake the other to suit oneself, but to create a climate for integrating the views of both partners into a life together is a constructive dialogue between two mature individuals.
Lack of overprotection and strong jealousy.
Let's start from the fact that people in relationships are adults. They are no longer girls and boys. There is no need to try to do for the other what he is able to do himself, this is humiliating and turns the relationship into a "house of everyday life".
Severe jealousy is a form of control. Who would like to live with a control freak? Moderation is important in everything.
Relationships should provide a sense of security and reliability. No, we are not talking about physical security, we mean stability and predictability of the partner.
And also building relationships around a pleasant, warm and joyful partnership in which everyone is heard. Don't build relationships around solving your partner's problems.
Respect for choice.
Respect is, in principle, a basic element of communication between partners in a relationship. Respect for one's own choice builds loyalty and the ability to find a common language, and respect for the choice of another builds confidence and security.
Say no to constant criticism.
Do not compare your partner with others and do not engage in biased criticism for the sake of criticism, do not strive to take complete control over his life through the constant demand to bring the other person to your ideal.
