People often say that words are not as important in a relationship as actions.
However, if a person says the following phrases to his lover, then it is unlikely that he values him and wants to continue this relationship.
What exactly should you not say to your loved one, so as not to upset him or alienate him or her?
When a person is angry, he can often be rude to his beloved. However, if close people constantly conflict, they should pay attention to this.
Most likely, their relationship is full of some difficulties that the two halves cannot sort out. What toxic phrases should be excluded from your speech?
Toxic language that only makes relationships worse.
"You're lucky I'm still here with you."
If a person treats his beloved with contempt, tries to belittle him, put him in an unfavorable light, considers him stupid and generally uncouth, then, of course, all this will lower the self-esteem of the person. Humiliation in relationships distances two partners from each other.
It is not surprising that there is no trust in the relationship between lovers if they exchange such phrases.
"Stop asking me questions all the time"
People will never be able to discuss their problems if they vent passive aggression on each other. This will not help partners resolve the conflict.
Most likely, the quarrel will drag on even longer, and it will bring pain to both lovers.
"You are pathetic"
Yes, sometimes people have a hard time accepting some of their significant other's shortcomings. But if lovers have decided to be together, they should not call their partner names when he or she behaves in a wrong way.
All people have their positive and negative sides. Therefore, it is important to find what a person likes about their significant other, but you should not focus only on the negative. You cannot communicate with a person in a derogatory manner and focus your attention on what they are not so good at.
"I can't stand you"
Even if a person said this phrase in the heat of the moment, he can be sure that his other half will remember it forever and, perhaps, will even play it over and over in his head.
Of course, such a phrase deprives a person of self-confidence and the fact that he is truly valued in the relationship. The partner may wonder whether there are really feelings in communication with the beloved or he is simply being used?
"Are you having problems with your head?"
If a person is told such a phrase, he begins to doubt that he perceives reality correctly. Often, gaslighters say this, trying to assert themselves in communication with their other half.
In no case should you criticize your beloved, in a conversation with him you should use only constructive criticism, which will not harm him, but will help to draw attention to some mistakes. You do not need to manipulate a loved one, the relationship will not become stronger from this.
"I'll leave you"
When a person manipulates his lover and promises to end the relationship with him, he already creates in his partner’s head the idea that he does not need this communication.
Trust will definitely disappear from the relationship if a person constantly hears that they want to leave him alone. Yes, he may become dependent on his other half, but perhaps he will gather his strength and, on the contrary, leave her himself, so as not to constantly face negativity and manipulation.
Even if there are some problems in people's communication, they should always solve them together, because what is the point of them maintaining their communication if they have long wanted to separate and not see each other?
