Most parents try to teach and raise their children based only on their own experience, without paying attention to the recommendations of experienced psychologists and pediatricians.
But every married couple has situations in life when the behavior and disobedience of their offspring shocks and baffles them.
Why do parents not take into account centuries-old practices of raising children, why do they not learn from the mistakes of others, but make their own?
The first common mistake is to deny love to a child if he does something bad: “If you don’t eat this bowl of soup, I won’t love you anymore!”
Yes, many parents say this when neither requests “in a good way” nor threats work.
But think about whether you will be able to keep such a promise? After all, children are very sensitive to deception: as a result, after a couple of successful cases, the child simply will not believe you. Sometimes it is much better to express it this way: "I love you, please change your behavior."
Often parents rush from one extreme to another, like "do whatever you want." With such indifference, adults try to save their nerves.
And you need to prepare the baby for independent life. Of course, this is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, the child needs to be gradually accustomed to adult life, but this needs to be kept under control!
Feeling impunity, the kid can do anything. Instead of feigning indifference, you can answer him like this: "I can't agree with you here, but in any case, when you need advice, you can ask me."
Another common problem is overly strict parents who often tell their child, “I’m the boss in this house, so do as you’re told.”
Of course, children need to follow the demands of adults, but is it worth introducing despotism? It is very important to explain to the child why this or that should be done.
It may seem to you that the requirements are obvious, but the child is much less experienced and some of your “orders” seem more than far-fetched to him.
