It is unlikely that any parent wants to turn their child into a loser.
However, many mothers and fathers, without wanting to, do just that.
They communicate with their child incorrectly, and then are surprised that the baby grows up indecisive, lazy and uninitiative.
Do you want your child to realize his or her talents and become a successful person as an adult?
Then stop using 3 very popular, but dangerous phrases!
"You won't succeed: you don't have the ability"
This remark will completely deprive the child of motivation and desire to act.
Don't stop a child who has taken on a task, even if you are sure that your child will fail.
Let him try, and then draw his own conclusion about whether he has the inclinations.
It often happens that a child who initially seemed “unpromising” begins to demonstrate incredible success in singing/drawing/sports.
"When I was your age, I already knew how to do this."
Your goal is to help your child overcome difficulties, not to assert yourself over him.
If you do say this phrase, then have no doubt: the baby will lose the desire to acquire the skill.
"You're annoying me with your questions!"
The child turned out to be too inquisitive? This is a reason for joy, not disappointment and irritation!
After all, the child is gaining knowledge. Don't deprive him of this opportunity.
It's good when parents answer their son's or daughter's questions. And it's even better when mom and dad explain to the child how to get this or that information.
