How to talk to a child if he is having a tantrum: an important rule

22.08.2024 09:54

Any parent can become confused during a child's tantrum.

And this is quite understandable: in many cases, the baby’s transition to a state of extreme nervous excitement occurs unexpectedly.

Just a minute ago, the child was behaving calmly, but suddenly something happened (for example, the baby got scared, lost a toy, or couldn’t persuade mom and dad to buy something). As a result, the child started crying and rolling on the floor.

Some parents make a mistake in this case: they yell at their son or daughter or beg him/her to calm down.

And some mothers and fathers fulfill the baby’s “demand” just so that he starts behaving normally again.

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But we need to act differently!

How should parents behave if their child is having a tantrum?

Many mothers and fathers ask themselves: “How to talk to a child who is too emotional?”

The correct answer will probably surprise many: “No way.”

Yelling at a hysterical child, scolding him, feeling sorry for him, calming him down with words/gifts, or asking him any questions is useless.

The fact is that a child in such a state most likely does not hear anyone: this is a feature of his neurophysiology.

Follow this simple rule: “If your baby starts to throw a tantrum, you need to calmly wait until the boy or girl stops crying.”

Only after this will the parents be able to find out what exactly caused the tears and what exactly the child wants.

Kurchev Anton Author: Kurchev Anton Deputy Editor-in-Chief