Not every word or phrase is suitable for consolation, especially when it comes to a child.
However, this does not stop parents, and sometimes at such moments they speak without thinking at all about how their words are perceived by their children.
Experts have named phrases that are best forgotten and never used again.
First mistake
Usually parents ask their child to stop crying and can’t think of anything new except “Don’t cry.”
The child already understands that he should not cry, but now he will cry even harder, because he will think that he is annoying his parents and that he has no right to emotions.
Try to redirect the child's attention, and then say something encouraging.
Second mistake
There is no need to devalue the child's experiences, even if it really is some kind of trifle in your eyes.
Again, he will think that his feelings are not important to his parents.
To calm your child down, ask him to think about how he can fix everything.
The third mistake
Adults' favorite thing to do is to rub salt into the wounds by reminding them that they warned children that toys break and that you can fall off a swing and hurt yourself.
Regardless of what happened, let your child understand that no one is immune from mistakes, and that a conclusion must be drawn from the situation.
The fourth mistake
A child may have his own fears, just like adults, and there is no need to make fun of them.
By leaving children alone with an imaginary “bogeyman” in the closet, adults deprive children of support and protection.
Find out why and what exactly he is afraid of, and then come up with a way to cope with this fear.
The fifth mistake
The desire to encourage a child is not bad in itself. The important thing is to do it correctly.
For example, when a child finds himself in an unfamiliar situation, he is unlikely to find the right solution to the cries of “Be brave, go ahead!” or “Chin up!”
The next time he makes a mistake, he will decide to hide his disappointment and will gradually become withdrawn.
Therefore, support is important, as well as the understanding that sadness and disappointment will pass, but the joy of communicating with parents will remain.
