You are mistaken if you think that a child’s self-esteem can only be destroyed by insults and humiliation.
Yes, the following parental phrases can really ruin a child’s life: “You’re so ugly!”, “You always ruin everything!”, “You can’t do anything!”, “You’re untalented!”
It is clear that mom and dad are obliged to refrain from using such remarks in their speech.
But that's not all. There are also phrases that are considered good or at least harmless. However, these remarks can also make a child's self-esteem inadequate.
"You are the best!"
Did you think that the word "ruin" only meant "lower self-esteem"?
We will surprise you: this is not true. If a child is arrogant, then his self-esteem is also ruined.
The parents' phrase "You are the best" makes the child think that he is much better than other children.
Be specific about your child’s strengths (“You draw well,” “You study better than anyone in your class”), and then his self-esteem will remain adequate.
"I warned you!"
The child did not listen to you and made a mistake? Do not mock the baby! Otherwise, he will develop a fear of making a mistake: the child will become uninitiative and withdrawn.
Better tell him this: "Please, next time, don't ignore our warnings!"
"You should have been doing your homework, not sitting at the computer!"
At first glance, this phrase should make the child pay attention to his mistake.
In fact, the child gets angry and then begins to consider himself “lazy.”
Earlier we listed phrases that help raise a happy child.
