Most articles about tantrums focus on helping children, while there is very little useful information on how mothers can stay calm in such situations.
But they are the ones who suffer from shame when little fidgets throw tantrums in public.
It's time to fix that: Below you'll find some tips to help you stay calm when your child is having a tantrum.
All children throw tantrums from time to time.
Your child's tantrums don't make you a bad mother - get used to the idea that sometimes they happen. There's nothing wrong with your child, and there's nothing wrong with you. It's normal for children to test boundaries in different ways or for them to have trouble managing their emotions.
Every tantrum is an opportunity for a child to learn how to interact with the world around them. After all, learning is great, don't you agree?
You can't always control a child's tantrum.
If the reason why the baby is being capricious is, for example, hunger, you can prevent hysteria. But most often it does not depend on you. Moreover, the correct actions of adults themselves can become the cause of hysteria - for example, when you forbid running out into the road or biting other children.
From the outside, hysteria doesn't look as scary as you think.
A child's tantrum is like doing a plank exercise: while it lasts, the seconds seem like minutes or even hours. People around you usually react adequately to the situation, and the acute phase of the tantrum does not last long. Watching a crying child and listening to his screams is indeed unpleasant, but it is temporary, and everyone has been through it.
You have the right to be angry.
Feelings of guilt and shame can make you feel worse, so allow yourself to feel angry instead. But try not to cross the line and do something you will regret later.
Earlier we talked about how not to forget the school curriculum during the holidays.
