Careless phrases of parents often become the cause of anger and disappointment in children.
It's good if the child sulks for a couple of hours and then forgets everything.
Unfortunately, it often happens that a child remembers what his parents said for a long time.
So what parental phrases are so frustrating to children that they can harbor resentment for years?
"We wanted a daughter, but you were born"
Don't tell your son that you wanted a daughter under any circumstances.
Of course, this rule also works in the opposite direction: a girl should not know that her mom and dad wanted to have a boy.
Such statements are a serious blow to a child. The child may come to the conclusion that he is not needed by his parents.
Each time he will find new “confirmations” that his mother and father “do not love” him.
It is quite possible that the resentment will remain even after the son/daughter grows up.
"You're not doing well, but Petya..."
Comparing with other children is an ineffective and even dangerous educational technique.
Instead of the desire to become better, the child will develop anger, envy and low self-esteem.
"We have sacrificed a lot for you, but you don't care."
Mom and dad must understand that caring for a baby is an expression of love, and not an “investment” in future “profit”.
Blaming a child for the financial difficulties that a family faces is definitely not the best idea.
Earlier we listed phrases that parents should say even to adult children.
