Incorrect communication between a mother and father and their son or daughter can cause serious problems in the child’s life.
There are dangerous phrases that should not be said when talking to a baby.
The most surprising thing is that it is not only about criticism, threats and attempts to humiliate.
There are also phrases that are considered “good,” but in fact are very harmful to the child.
So, what remarks should parents avoid?
"You are my kitty"
It would seem that there is nothing wrong with such sweet and affectionate treatment.
In fact, there is no point in coming up with a nickname for your baby that is related to animals.
No "bunnies" or "cats"! If you do use such addresses, do it rarely. Otherwise, it will lead to depersonalization.
But you need to call the baby by name as often as possible.
"Just like his father!"
This phrase is dangerous for two reasons. First, it convinces the child that he is "incorrigible." And that he has bad character traits.
Secondly, not only the baby is criticized, but also his parent. And this does not contribute to the creation of a strong family.
"If you misbehave, I'll give you to that woman over there!"
Of course, in reality, the parents do not plan to abandon their child. They only frighten him.
However, the baby may take the threats seriously. For the child, this will be a huge psychological blow: "Mom and Dad don't need me."
"Don't disgrace me!"
Don't make your child feel guilty like that.
If you often say this dangerous phrase, the child will come to the conclusion that the parents are ashamed of him. This is fraught with a drop in the child's self-esteem.
"But your classmate got the highest score!"
You can criticize a schoolchild for getting "twos". But you just shouldn't use other children as an example.
Otherwise, the child will come to the following conclusion: "I am worse than others. I have no abilities."
Earlier we listed phrases that can instantly calm a crying baby.
