There are active and sociable children, and there are withdrawn and shy kids.
There is no need to assume that one of these behavior options is “correct” and another is “wrong.”
We are simply talking about character traits. In their normal form, they are unlikely to negatively affect a person's life.
The main thing is not to put psychological pressure on the child. Otherwise, the baby will be seriously harmed.
So, if your son or daughter feels awkward when communicating with peers and adults, do not under any circumstances say the following phrases.
"He's shy."
When talking to someone, never call your child shy.
Otherwise, you will brand your own child as timid and shy.
If those around you know about the baby’s character traits in advance, it will be more difficult for him to become more active and sociable.
"Well, why are you embarrassed?"
Notice that your baby is feeling awkward? Don't tell him about it or "pressure" him.
After the phrase “Don’t be shy!” the child is unlikely to become more self-confident.
Rather, the opposite is true: the child will understand that his shyness has been noticed, and so he will withdraw into himself even more.
"Why were you so worried?"
And don’t criticize your child after this or that event has already happened.
The child himself understands that he was timid. Additional pressure is unlikely to help.
Earlier we explained why parents should read books to young children.
