It can be difficult for parents to find a common language with their child, and many generally feel that their children are growing up withdrawn or detached.
Oddly enough, it is not only the children who are to blame for this. Often, mothers and fathers themselves actively contribute to this.
Experts have given some advice that will help you build a trusting relationship with your child.
Firstly, there is no strict control
If you constantly ask your child about his social circle and persistently inquire about who and where he went out with, what he did, forbid him from seeing them or start reading his correspondence on social networks or messengers, then failure is inevitable.
It is better and correct to ask calmly in a casual conversation, without moving on to interrogation.
Secondly, be on your child's side.
If your neighbor said something bad about your child, don't rush to grab the belt. It is unacceptable for a stranger to belittle the qualities and virtues of your child, and parents actively contribute to this. Especially if the information is unreliable.
This will cause aggression and mistrust.
Thirdly, don’t be shy about asking your children for advice.
This is the best way to build an equal relationship if you ask your son or daughter's opinion. It is not necessary to do what the child wants, but it is important to come to a common opinion.
This way children begin to feel that their opinions are valued and respected.
Fourth, blackmail and threats
If parents use the practice of depriving children of pleasures for bad grades or behavior, then this spoils their relationships with their children in advance.
Children in such families often hide their problems, do not tell everyone everything, lie or dodge.
In any case, parents should not abuse their authority if they want their children to share not only their problems, but also their joys.
Earlier we talked about how to wean a child off swearing.
