You often hear that parents should not say certain phrases or words to their children if they want their children to grow up confident and happy.
There are exactly the same phrases that adult children should not say to their elderly parents.
Experts believe that such words in the mouths of children cut elderly parents without a knife.
"I don't need your money"
If you add something like “you can’t buy anything with them now” to this phrase, you can really hit the self-esteem of parents who want to help their adult son or daughter even in retirement.
You can't refuse if you know that this is not your last money or your life savings.
"I'll do everything myself"
By helping their elderly parents, children may write them off.
If the work is difficult or dangerous, then you need to come up with another excuse for your parents to do something else. At the same time, you shouldn't remind them of their age.
"I've heard this a hundred times already."
When telling news or a story, an older person may not know that his listeners already know about what happened. It is not the fact itself that is important, but the communication.
This is especially unacceptable when it comes to family history.
"What difference does it make to you?" or "You're already old anyway"
Everyone knows perfectly well what happens with age, but there is no need to remind anyone about it once again.
Instead of such statements, it is better to remember the pleasant moments experienced together over a long life.
Earlier we talked about whether a man can distance himself from parenting .
