Many people dream of living with their family in peace and harmony, but we are all living people, so quarrels and scandals can sometimes happen.
This is completely normal.
Especially if you live with a teenager with his youthful maximalism, spirit of rebellion and rethinking of authorities.
In this case, parents have an important responsibility, which is to ensure that quarrels occur in the most environmentally friendly way possible.
What mistakes should not be made?
You can't go as far as insults
It can be extremely difficult to restrain oneself with teenagers, as they themselves can deeply offend their loved ones. However, parents must be wise and restrained.
When a child outgrows a difficult age, he will realize his mistakes. But adults simply should not allow them.
Teenagers are extremely sensitive, so insults hurt them. As a result, their behavior will only get worse, experts say.
Don't lose control
This point is similar to the previous one, because it again speaks about the need for adults to be wise. It is easy to lose control during an argument, to start shouting, cursing and throwing tantrums.
This won't help matters.
During a quarrel, you need to behave decently. In this case, the teenager will calm down, because he does not expect a healthy reaction.
Don't reproach
Sometimes a wounded ego awakens in parents, as a result of which they begin to remind the child of his past sins and actions.
This is an extremely rash act, as it will only anger the child. Therefore, during a scandal, do not list the situations when you were unhappy.
Argumentation
Not all parents understand why it is necessary to use arguments in a dispute with a teenager, because the child must respect and obey them.
But we shouldn’t forget about the specifics of puberty.
Therefore, logical arguments will help you reach your teenager, but a simple emotional reaction with a “reference” to your parental authority will be useless.
Use personal experience
Sometimes children don't think that parents are ordinary people with their own emotions, experiences and thoughts. So don't be shy about talking about personal things.
Explain how your teen's behavior hurts and upsets you. There's nothing wrong with that, and it can actually help you get through to your child.
