There are many positive aspects and advantages to large families, but there are also difficulties.
If parents know about this in advance, they will be able to prevent the problem from arising.
What difficulties should you be aware of?
Feeling of envy
Parents in large families find it extremely difficult to adhere to the principles of fairness and equality. Older children are often assigned the functions of adults, so they are deprived of an important part of their childhood.
They begin to envy the younger ones, because they get more attention and care. Also, in large families, it is not always possible to satisfy the desires of all the children, which provokes the emergence of a feeling of envy.
Experts do not recommend shifting the functions of a nanny and "additional parents" to older children: this does not lead to anything good. It is also important to try to pay equal attention to everyone, without singling out particular favorites.
Lack of social connections
It is never boring in large families, because a child can always find a brother or sister with whom he can have a great time, discuss what worries him, and get moral support or advice. This is, of course, a huge advantage.
However, this can have a negative impact on social relationships. Children often do not understand why they need friendships at all, if everything they need can be obtained within the family.
Lack of love
Any child wants to receive as much love and attention from adults as possible. However, parents with many children cannot be "torn apart".
As a result, the child may feel insufficiently loved. Therefore, it is important to try to distribute your warm feelings equally between the children so that such a problem does not arise.
Lack of personal space
Not every child from a large family has their own isolated room, so they have to share housing with brothers or sisters.
As a result, children suffer from a lack of personal space, which can have a negative impact on personality development.
Touchiness
In large families, there is sometimes no opportunity to think about the feelings and experiences of each child, so children have a great tendency to be touchy.
It is extremely important to shape family relationships in such a way that each child's feelings matter.
