Psychologists say: a careless word spoken to a child can have a negative impact on his psyche.
Hence, when communicating with a small person, one should very carefully select these very words and, even more so, whole expressions.
We tell you which words and phrases you shouldn't say to your child. At least, based on the recommendations of psychologists.
"When I was your age..."
Agree, sometimes parents are so upset by a bad grade at school for their son or daughter that they can’t help but say something like, “When I was your age, I only got A’s.”
The bad thing here is that if this is constantly instilled in him, the child begins to study not for himself, but for his parents.
He tries to prove that he is no worse than his mom and dad, that he can also bring home A's.
From here he stops enjoying his successes, unless his parents appreciate his efforts. But will they?
Comparison with others
It often happens that, having seen, say, a “B” in the diary, a parent reproaches their child: Masha got an “A”, and you got a “B”?
Don't do that. It's very unpleasant for a child when they are compared to someone else, and not necessarily to classmates, it could even be a brother or sister.
The danger of this is that the child will carry the painful perception of such reproaches into adulthood, where he will continue to compare himself with others.
This can lead to an inferiority complex.
Comparison with one of the parents
Often a dissatisfied father or mother will declare that the child is “the same as your mother (father).”
The expression reflects problems in the parents' relationship, which are projected onto an innocent child.
There is a great danger that all these unpleasant moments can remain for a long time in a very impressionable and vulnerable child’s soul.
"Get out of my sight"
And sometimes the irritated parent adds: “Go away so that I don’t see or hear you.”
Even more evil adults go further and say that the child, they say, ruined their lives.
We repeat, in a child’s extremely vulnerable soul this negativity remains for a long time.
There is a risk that even in adulthood he will not get rid of the feeling of guilt for allegedly interfering with his parent’s normal life.
