This question needs to be answered from both sides at once: the child and the adult.
Usually parents have their own idea of how a child should learn, what he should study, how he should develop.
Dmitry Raevsky, founder of a network of integrative medicine clinics, pediatrician, specialist in psychosomatics and therapeutic touch, explained why children do not want to study.
Based on this, he projects some of his expectations onto the child. The child wants to learn, he comes into this world to study it. And up to the age of seven, his cognitive activity is at its maximum level.
Maybe you have noticed that a small child is interested in everything, he wants to touch everything, throw the same spoon from the same table 10 times. And the older he gets, the more interesting it is for him to go to different clubs and try singing, dancing, and playing different sports.
Then, naturally, the child's cognitive activity begins to fade. It needs to be supported. But here, many parents switch on a mechanism where they clearly know for the child what he needs to study, and make a choice for him.
And all this happens during the child's second seven years, when he is no longer completely attached to his parents, he begins to form his own vision, opinion, desires. That is, the child begins to identify himself in this world.
But parents, not understanding how to behave in this situation, try to simply shift the patterns, how they learned, how it was with others, how it should be. Naturally, this causes rebellion, resistance in the child. And he begins to study poorly. And here it is important to understand that children want to learn new things and study, but do not want to do it the way their parents demand.
What to do
It is very important during this period (from five to seven years), when the natural process of learning in a child slowly begins to fade away, that is, he has learned a minimum of this life, has experienced it, and he no longer wants everything so much, he chooses one section/club for himself, and he is no longer interested in going to everything in a row.
This is normal, this is natural. And during this period, it is important for a parent to be sensitive to the child, to respect his choice, no matter what the child starts doing. If we do not mix in our ideas about how, for example, a child will now go to robotics without the basic foundations of mathematics.
He will simply go to this club and then he will hit the limit, that without mathematics he will not be able to advance further there or in those areas that interest him. He will understand this himself, this is his experience, he must get it. And parents from the very beginning need to learn to accept the choice and out of respect help him make this choice.
After seven years, the parent already teaches the child to finish things, that is, he chose, for example, drawing, then you should not immediately leave at the first difficulty. You need to figure out what you didn’t like, what didn’t work out, and try to fix it, try again.
Or another example. A child was sent to a ballet school at an early age. Everything worked out. But after seven years, the child suddenly decides to quit ballet, stops being "burning" with this art. Here you shouldn't be an executioner and blame the child for ruining his life, not understanding how important it is.
But you should just talk, figure out the reasons. Perhaps relationships in the team are not working out, or the child is having a hard time with the load, he is experiencing discomfort, pain. It is important to support the child, to make it clear that you should not give up on your dream because of small difficulties that can be solved.
The child does not have willpower yet, so he needs help to take steps towards his dream. Motivate and warm up his cognitive interest.
