To become feminine, you first need to understand what it is.
Psychotechnologist Alexandra Silver told how to become feminine.
There are qualities that are more inherent in women, here they are.
Mental flexibility, emotionality, ability to multitask (otherwise the embedded Motherhood program simply could not be realized, because a woman needs to manage to keep track of a huge number of tasks and details).
In addition, women are generally more empathetic, they strive to resolve conflicts. Many women have significantly better emotional intelligence.
That is, in fact, all these qualities are, in principle, inherent in a developed adult person, but in a woman they are more pronounced, as a consequence of the differences in her brain.
But what really distinguishes a woman from a man is her heightened “corporeality”, her ability to very subtly catch the sensations of her body. And through the enjoyment of these sensations, the state of I-Am, to create a field of joy and Love, in which a Man likes to bathe so much…
I won’t tell you a secret by saying that dresses and skirts are not a mandatory attribute of femininity; thinking like that is yesterday’s news, it’s outdated and doesn’t work.
You can be super feminine and expressive in jeans or a pantsuit.
Let femininity lie through bodily practices, through studying oneself, through understanding where in your body each emotion lives.
When we see a mature and developed Woman, she is always manifested and original. She accepts her body and appearance in general, she loves herself, she sincerely cares for herself.
She has clearly defined personal boundaries. She understands what brings her joy and comfort.
She only allows those people who behave with dignity to be in her circle.
And the best part is that all this fits in perfectly with her career and social fulfillment, if she wants it. I'll stop here a bit: the thing is that we are all very different, we are carriers of different psychotypes. There are women for whom it is important to build a career, and it goes easily, in a thrill.
There are those who love to build a home.
Both can be super feminine! The patriarchal model is insanely outdated. It is an outdated anachronism. Today, a woman can be anything, and if she is expressed, she will find her super Man.
What to do specifically and step by step.
- Pay attention to your personal boundaries, learn to say “no”.
- Engage in any physical practices that help you feel your body.
- Explore your preferences and your nature (what activities bring you pleasure and what is more of a tribute to the norm).
- Try to live every day more from the “I want” point of view, and not from the “I have to”.
- Establish your daily routine and minimize stress.
As a cherry on the cake, I recommend working through old negative emotions and unconscious stresses that are sealed in the body. The latest generation of neurocoaching methods work great here. You can also try psychotherapy, but it takes much more time.
And in general, femininity is about pleasure and enjoyment. The more feminine you are, the more joy you have from life, which you generously give to other people!
