Setting personal boundaries is an important step towards your mental well-being.
ADVICE.NEWS told us where to start this matter of primary importance.
Take care of your comfort
Pay attention to your comfort, notice when someone violates it, and immediately talk about it.
You can calmly and politely communicate your discomfort. For example, talk about your feelings and sensations through I-messages. Try not to raise your voice or blame the person.
Instead, ask your interlocutor for something or simply communicate what you are feeling right now.
Learn to say no
This is another important point in protecting personal boundaries. If you feel that you do not want to do something, say "no".
Switch your attention from other people to yourself. After all, first of all, you should take care of yourself and your mental comfort.
It is your responsibility to say what you don't want and refuse. For example: "I really appreciate your offer, but today I'm going to take a break and be alone."
Talk about your boundaries with other people.
It is important not only to know for yourself what is bad and what is good for you, but also to let others know when you are uncomfortable.
When communicating with a person, you can discuss in advance what is definitely unacceptable to you.
Each of us has different experiences and ways of thinking, so no one can read your mind and guess what is bad for you.
However, one should adhere to the universal rules of communication without violating boundaries:
- do not give unsolicited assessments, advice, opinions;
- Do not touch other people without permission.
