Psychologist Valery Gut told how to stop crying
Tears are unfairly perceived by us as something negative. You can often hear stereotypical phrases: "Don't cry", "Men don't cry".
Valery Gut, PhD in Psychology and developer of the theory of adaptive intelligence, told how to stop crying.
We consider it a sign of weakness, we are irritated by tears for a minor reason. But tears are a natural reaction to negative events, stress or strong emotions.
As babies, we communicate by crying. Some people may be more prone to expressing their feelings in a more intense way.
However, if tears become obsessive and occur even in minor cases, then it is worth paying attention to your emotions and starting to work on regulating them. If a person often cries while watching a movie, watching children, regretting someone else's grief, then he shows empathy - sympathy, compassion.
These qualities characterize a kind and sympathetic person.
When a person deeply experiences any turn of events - at work, at school, in relationships, then this may indicate a shattered psyche. The basis for tears in this case is an internal imbalance: misunderstanding, stress, anxiety, fear.
Frequent tears may also be caused by neurotic problems: the desire to attract attention, the need to be heard.
It is worth analyzing the reasons for crying, helping yourself and trying to meet your needs in a way that is environmentally friendly for you.
- Determine what exactly causes crying. Analyze the emotions at the moment when tears are just starting to well up. This will help you understand what circumstances cause strong emotions. “People don’t cry because they’re weak, they cry because they’ve been strong for too long” (Johnny Depp).
- Change your approach to the situation. Consider what is happening from different angles and think about how you can change your reaction. Maybe you should approach it with humor or find a way to relieve tension.
- Learn to manage your emotions. Meditation, deep breathing, yoga, exercise, and other forms of relaxation or activity can help you manage your emotions.
- Communicate with friends and family. Share your experiences and find support from people you trust.
Holding in negative feelings can make the situation worse. Don't be ashamed of your feelings.
However, the ability to control your emotions will help improve the quality of life and cope with stress more effectively.
