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What 5 mistakes do we often make when breaking up: the opinion of psychologists
20.10.2023 16:30
Not all people know how to break up correctly, because we don’t think about it at the beginning of a relationship.
However, there may come a point in a couple when we realize that we no longer see ourselves next to the person.
In this case, there is no point in delaying the inevitable moment.
What mistakes do we make when breaking up?
"Wrong" breakup
It may seem like a good idea to communicate your decision via text, phone call, or even through a third party. But this is a big mistake.
Such an attitude hurts the partner we once loved. It is not worth hurting a person if you can do everything more worthily.
Experts believe that the most appropriate way to end a relationship is a personal conversation.
Claims and insults
Of course, some of your partner's shortcomings are the reason you decided to end the relationship. But a discussion about your partner's bad behavior is only reasonable if you stay together.
Therefore, you shouldn't say everything that's been boiling over inside you. If you could tolerate all of this during the relationship, then you made a personal choice.
If you decide to speak out, then you can forget about a peaceful separation without conflict.
"Ajar door"
Some people break up in a very strange way: they actually announce the end of the relationship, but keep the person’s number and social networks.
If you do not have shared obligations, children or pets, then this behavior is not allowed.
Don't keep contacts and photos of your exes: it's like a "half-open door" that you plan to use from time to time.
Scandal
There is no point in leaving a person with a scandal. This will only worsen an already difficult situation. It is worth repeating once again: you yourself made the decision to stay with your partner, so there is no need to blame him for your own decision.
If you can avoid a scandal, you can allow yourself and your ex-partner to maintain dignity.
Lack of normal conversation
Breakups are always painful for the person being abandoned. Therefore, it is advisable to reduce the "degree" of negative emotions.
In order to avoid misunderstandings and omissions, it is worth talking honestly, calmly and openly.
