Psychologist Andrey Kashkarov told how love affects the psyche
The influence of love on the human psyche certainly takes place.
However, this is only one of the influential factors on the psyche, because there are many of them and all of them are generally determined by emotions that are significant for a particular person.
It is entirely possible to enter into the appropriate emotional state yourself or to introduce someone else into the appropriate emotional state, the only question is the motives and means.
As for love, this is a prolonged emotion based on the feeling of another person being irreplaceable for you and the feeling of irreplaceable (due to the absence of others equal in impact) happiness, when it subjectively seems that nothing else (at least at a specific moment in time) can be desired and is not wanted.
Many responsible and professionally trained specialists consider love to be comparable in its effect on a person to a drug; indeed, there is much in common with the typical definition of the latter.
An important trait, the ability of a person, is to feel trust and voluntary dependence on a loved one, says psychologist Andrei Kashkarov .
There is a common expression, flavored with emotions from unfulfilled desires and unfulfilled hopes - “doesn’t know how to love”, applied to representatives of both sexes, as a rule, by the opposite sex.
However, this is relative.
But how high feelings affect a person's mental background is well proven. But first, a few words about how to define them. To do this, you don't have to be or be known as amorous, rather the opposite.
To see the good beginning and continuation in a person, to “strengthen” this good in one’s perception and to selflessly and continue to treat the object of one’s feelings in this way - every creator who changes reality can do this, if one makes an effort.
And there will definitely be a reciprocal result. Not in the context of "I give to you, and then you give to me for this", but just like that, for no reason, it would seem. And this magic really works.
After all, a person is good by nature: responsive, sincerely sympathetic and even able to save in difficult times using psychological (among other) tools, saying the magic phrase - “I am always with you, no matter what happens”, conditionally kind, ready to come to the rescue.
Moreover, there is this need in a person to "do good". The truth is much better, it manifests itself to strangers than to relatives, but here is another question and answer.
But still – it manifests itself. It is explained by the fact that a person experiences satisfaction and pleasure from helping, from feeling indispensable – at the right time and in the right place – will save one or many…
And this improves the psycho-emotional state. The rule works almost always.
Yes, it is not easy to save, it would seem, those who do not want it, who in every possible way demonstrate independence, pride, ego...
But here is a fallacy of obviousness, because a person thereby shows even more that he needs to be loved, and the real manifestations of strength are simple and clear - he is not loved.
And this is how he reacts to people and circumstances. And his inner world "screams" - love me, I am good!
When this feeling finally comes or becomes mutual, an irreplaceable person is found who says - “no matter what happens, we are together”, the person’s fears weaken and over time become unnoticeable, he gets used to this thought and action, because you quickly get used to good things.
There are many "hidden dangers" here, such as the fact that some people get so used to it over time that they try to manipulate, but this is a complex topic for another discussion.
In the meantime, it is clear what a person needs: to get rid of fear. Fear accompanies a conventionally medical person often and everywhere. And an element of this fear manifests itself in the fact that "I am not good enough for him (her)."
Fear gives rise to waves of thoughts, throwing, sometimes provocations in order to get confirmation from the partner - in the opposite, sometimes the desire to obey in everything and at all costs.
But fear that affects the psyche and emotional background exists, and it can either go away or appear over time and circumstances.
Therefore, the partner must always have at the ready a great deal of patience and a “couple or three” specific, other-oriented “preparations” to save.
The simplest we discussed above - to show the other person your unconditional feelings, acting yesterday, today and tomorrow, to calm him down with this. Fear goes away - the emotional background improves, in common parlance - the mood.
This is how all positive feelings and emotions coming from outside influence the psyche. In addition to eliminating fear, they increase self-esteem and determine confidence and desire for reciprocal "good" in a person.
This is how reciprocity and the feeling of the partner's irreplaceability arise; after all, almost no one tells us sincerely that they love us as we are. Only a few do.
And it is to them that we open up to the maximum possible trust. The degree of trust is different for everyone, but a person trusts another more easily when he feels confident and feels the unconditional (without demanding an answer) sincerity of the partner.
Therefore, the emotional background improves, happiness is felt, closeness to paradise, when nothing else has much importance, as long as this feeling does not leave, and fears do not return.
If you can do it, do not delay showing your feelings to someone you love and value as irreplaceable, but act immediately.
Stop reading this scum of words! Go and make your loved one happy – right now, tell him how you love him (her), as you have never loved anyone in your life before. And then, of course, you will be happy too.
