Psychologist Anna Zhustal told how to survive a crisis in a relationship
A crisis can occur at different stages of a relationship.
Anna Zhustal, psychologist and author of the self-development book “Inevitable Happiness,” told how to survive a crisis in a relationship.
Often families break up within the first months after the wedding, having failed to organize their life together and having discovered a discrepancy in views in many areas.
The next challenge is the birth of a child, when you have to significantly change your priorities and habits.
When children grow up and leave their parents' home, this also becomes a serious test of the strength of the relationship.
Some fail to find new meaning in life; conflicts previously suppressed for the sake of children are revealed, and this can lead to a breakup.
In addition to these reasons, there may be dozens of other situations that threaten the continuation of the relationship.
This includes betrayal, illness, and changes in life priorities and values. If disagreements are insurmountable and living together only brings suffering, then separation is probably a logical consequence.
But in most cases, crises can be survived. For this, both partners need to want it.
The first and most important step is to acknowledge the problem. Don't ignore it and pretend that everything is fine.
This will only drive the conflict deeper – it will gradually grow there, and one fine day it will break through anyway.
Tell your partner about your feelings, about what worries you. It is important to convey your position without reproaches and judgments. Talk about yourself and your emotions, but do not evaluate your partner's actions.
If he has heard you and is ready to jointly search for solutions, then discuss what each of you can do to make both of you feel comfortable in this relationship.
Sometimes relationships just need a reboot.
Go on a trip just the two of you, find a common hobby to spend more time together, make it a rule to go on dates at least once a week, including to unusual places where you have never been, experiment in bed.
This will help you look at each other with fresh eyes and fall in love again.
And every time you suddenly have the thought of breaking up, go back to the beginning and remember why you chose this person.
This will help you find motivation for why you should move on and not end the relationship.
And remember that even if you break up, everything can repeat itself exactly in a new relationship, because often, when we change partners, we try to run away from the problem, but in reality it sits inside us.
And until you identify it and live it, nothing will change.
