Psychologist Anna Zhustal told how to cope with jealousy
Jealousy is a negative emotion and it most often occurs in an insecure person with low self-esteem.
Anna Zhustal, psychologist and author of the self-development book “Inevitable Happiness,” told how to deal with jealousy.
If you let the situation slide, this feeling will gradually destroy you from within, worsening the quality of life of both the jealous person and the one towards whom this emotion is directed.
To cope with the feeling of jealousy, you must first recognize it in yourself.
Pay attention to what emotions you experience when your partner communicates with other people of the opposite sex, when he stays late at work, or when he spends a long time texting someone on the phone.
What kind of emotions are you overwhelmed with? Anger, melancholy, fear? Try to objectively assess whether there are reasons for suspicion or whether these are your internal scenarios for such a development of events?
Once you have realized and accepted the fact that you are feeling jealous, you need to try to understand what exactly you are afraid of.
It will probably be the fear of losing your loved one, because he may fall out of love and find someone better than you.
The next step is to visualize the fear. Imagine that what you are so afraid of has happened. Listen to your emotions - what do you feel?
Focus on these feelings, live them. And then imagine what you will do next. How you will live, work, relax, with whom you will communicate. And you will see that life will generally go on as usual.
And this will help reduce the level of stress and fear for the future without this person.
Next, start looking for support within yourself. It is important to remember that any projection onto another person is a reflection of our internal state.
And it is precisely this state that needs to be worked on, the source of "infection" is there, not outside. Give yourself the feeling that you expect from your partner, find internal support.
It also helps to ask yourself questions. How can I help myself get rid of the feeling of jealousy? What can I do for myself? This will help you shift the focus of attention from the object of jealousy to yourself.
In certain cases, when a person experiences jealousy of a pathological nature - persecuting and tormenting their partner, it is better to seek help from a specialist.
