How to understand what a man loves: a psychologist gave advice to women
High feelings change people's behavior, habits, and even goal-setting. Feelings and emotions are common to humans, and a man has, of course, his own particular ways of expressing them. But it is important to understand their orientation directly toward achieving specific goals: there could be goals achieved by both action and inaction.
It is precisely by goal setting, directly related to motivation, that the “meaningful content” of behavior is determined, that is, the differences between the actions of a loving man and the actions of a man striving for more mundane goals – possession, dominance, acquisition, or even avoidance (of difficulties).
In this sense, conditional "inaction" is the same pattern of behavior as activity: wanting to keep the relationship in a couple in the comfort zone, he does not risk disturbing the "euphoria" by not taking active, ill-considered and risky actions, not wanting to offend her in any way. That is, he becomes extremely attentive to the details of the relationship, catching literally every hint.
Thus, the emerging and developing feelings of a man for a woman are undoubtedly a great incentive for the manifestation of special patterns of his behavior, notes psychologist Andrei Kashkarov .
When a high feeling for a woman is actualized, the desire to shine and influence, already inherent in a typical man, manifests itself in all its glory. "Embellishing one dubious truth with a hundred lies" - according to Lope de Vega's "The Dog in the Manger" - a man, depending on his individual characteristics and possession of assets, invents, dissembles or, on the contrary, reveals himself, reflecting in reality what he has, trying to make an impression in the best possible way.
This is manifested externally in clothing and a generally well-groomed appearance, in signs of attention to the beloved, which can have various manifestations - from frequent and systematic small and large gifts to extravagant ones, such as, for example, a voucher for a single (for her) or even a joint parachute jump with him (together with the initial preparation, the action takes only a few hours).
Many great fortunes and extravagant actions in obtaining them are connected precisely with the desire to prove to the beloved one’s importance, solvency, or, which also happens, but less often, as a manifestation of the consequences of her refusal, unrequited love.
During a favorable development of the relationship, the number of smiles increases significantly, and it is easy to notice how the mood improves, and ideas on how to surprise the object of attention "gush" from him. In the treasury of world knowledge, created by numerous studies of the cause-and-effect relationship and manifestations of feelings in men and women, conclusions have been repeatedly proposed that it is advisable to "take" a man during his love as a model of a creative generator of ideas.
This is the best time for creating intellectual property, practical inventions, theoretical concepts and thoughts of fundamental nature of global significance and level, and the applied value of emotions directed in the right direction or at least read in the experimental format is difficult to overestimate.
When in love, it is very interesting to study a man as an "unidentified object", because he reveals himself from new sides. High feelings for a woman, provoked by the desire to possess her, can change even the most hardened misogynist, bachelor, retrograde scholastic, stagnating and "bathing" in his loneliness, imagining and spreading around the world the utter nonsense that "a woman only resembles a man and lives next to him."
A man in love easily transforms from such stupidity and demonstrates to his beloved the decorations of this world in all possible manifestations. The behavior of a man in love changes dramatically, he can literally "stand on his head", even if he is not only 15, but also 75 and his health allows it.
And when arguing with your beloved, it's hard to find a person more unhappy than him. But I don't recommend anyone to find out by provocation, you never know... Because in one song there are these words: "I'll give a bride price for you, I'll sell my soul to the devil... and as if from heaven everything is pushing you... baa ...
It is clear that all this is done taking into account the clarification of the desires or dreams of the object of the influence of his feelings. The same is manifested in signs of attention of a personal nature: the desire to communicate with the beloved in order to find out and clarify the details of her life, history, preferences in the broad sense of the concept, worldview, the desire for touches that warm up the feelings that have arisen, in general the desire to do something pleasant. And all this really works on the principle of "you give, and you get more."
Thus, having determined feelings for his beloved, not always fully understanding the “inside story” and the cause-and-effect relationship of his feelings, especially when they are mutual (there are many impeccable maxims about the alleged stupidity of lovers on this matter), a man receives pleasure for himself as a secondary reaction.
This connection between actions and reflection on them becomes that conditional “drug”, an obsession, the organization of a personal comfort zone that one does not want to lose.
