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Psychologist Inessa Spinka told how a man shows his love
10.05.2023 16:13
There are 2 pillars on which strong and long-lasting relationships are built - respect and understanding. Let's look at each of them separately.
Psychologist Inessa Spinka told how a man shows his love.
Respect
When it comes to respect, I don't just mean holding back during the mundane squabbles that are inevitable in living together.
Not getting personal in a conflict is a quality that distinguishes any well-mannered individual, so it cannot be said that this is an unambiguous sign of love.
Although, of course, when we argue with someone important to us, we more carefully filter what we want to say.
Respect from a man is an attempt to create a safe space for a woman, both spiritually and materially. True, it is initially advisable to ask what exactly she needs for a comfortable life, because the ideas about what is desired may not coincide.
And if she says that she needs a certain amount of money in her account and her own apartment, then you shouldn’t immediately accuse her of being mercantile; perhaps, for her, having these benefits allows her to remove all her everyday worries.
A woman's definition of personal space boundaries, which a man accepts, is another sign of respect and love.
For example, if we are talking about raising the younger generation, then the young mother should be sure that she will have free time for herself. It does not matter whether the man will look after the children himself or invite a nanny for these purposes, personal space allows you to feel loved.
Understanding
If you look at couples who have been living together for many years, you will notice one interesting feature: sometimes they don’t even need extra words to understand each other.
This ability comes with the years, when people get to know each other more and more, discovering new strengths and weaknesses in each other and learning to predict the behavior of their partner.
However, it may not be there, then it seems that people living under one roof are strangers to each other. That is why I believe that understanding is one of the manifestations of love.
A woman can be both a source of abundance for the family and a generator of problems. And one and the same. Everything will depend on the right approach to her by a man, which he builds intuitively, and understanding comes to him precisely thanks to love.
If there is no desire to get to know and accept the person next to you, then there is probably no talk of strong feelings.
Often in couples there is a situation when a man is against a woman working. If this resonates with her, it is one thing, but if it contradicts her understanding of her own happy life, this is a reason to think.
In this case, it cannot be said that the partner is acting out of love for his other half, because, recognizing her desires, he must simply support her.
"We need to let her get some sleep, because she gets irritable from lack of sleep, and she has a difficult day tomorrow" - this thought that comes to a man's mind is an expression of love. Here, both understanding the reasons for irritability and specific steps to avoid it are a sign of respect.
It sounds simple - it's not breakfast in bed or a serenade under the window, but in fact it is the apogee of male love: looking at the situation from the position of what is important to the partner, and accepting his side.
The support a man can give to his beloved woman is hard to overestimate. His faith in her, expressed both emotionally and verbally, gives her strength and confidence.
