Psychologist Elizaveta Vasilyeva told how to make a man think about you
For many women, it is important to feel desired.
Psychologist Elizaveta Vasilyeva told how to make a man think about you.
It's nice when your chosen one says: "I think about you all the time." Agree that you want to hear such words after the first date and after 10 years of marriage? Not every woman can evoke such an emotional response in a man.
How to make sure you hear the cherished words
First, give up the "busyness illusion." Sometimes women decide to attract a man's attention by being a little unavailable.
They start deliberately not answering messages, picking up the phone not the first time, rescheduling meetings. A man who has good self-esteem and personal boundaries will be scared off by such a method. Behave naturally.
But don't be pushy either. Don't be too pushy, because that's a turn-off. Think about your pushy admirers. How did you feel?
Try to find a balance in communication. Try to follow the "10 steps" rule: "I take exactly 5 steps in your direction and expect the same from you."
Also, develop yourself. All people like interesting conversationalists. Men also want to have something to talk about with you. Try to create your own self-presentation: what is special about you? What are your hobbies? What topics can you talk about?
Address him by name from the first minutes. People like the sound of their name.
Try this experiment: address a waiter or cashier by name, and you will most likely notice how the person smiles. This is the fastest way to immediately win someone over.
Compliment him. For some reason, in society, men, unlike women, rarely receive pleasant words addressed to them. Believe me, they also like it when their merits are noticed.
Emphasize his efforts, because men also prepare for dates: compliment his perfume, his outfit or his hairstyle.
Listen to him. Men often complain that women only talk about themselves on dates. Pause after your monologues, ask him clarifying questions, show interest in his personality.
Respect his personal boundaries. Be understanding if he can't meet or answer you. Don't make a scene about it.
And finally, do not neglect physical contact: touch the hand, hug. Try to use skin-to-skin contact whenever possible, because this is how oxytocin is produced - the hormone of closeness and trust.
Love yourself, show your true self, and your man will think only about you!
