Psychologist Alevtina Vishnevskaya explained why a man does not propose
Each person may have their own personal reasons for avoiding marriage.
Psychologist Alevtina Vishnevskaya explained why a man doesn’t propose.
If there is an idea that marriage is a union in which I will be happy, in which there will be pleasure and joy, it is unlikely that a person will avoid it. A person avoids what he fears.
What could be the reasons?
Your chosen one has a traumatic relationship experience.
Unsuccessful relationships, in which there were many quarrels, scandals, claims, pressure, devaluation, can really give the experience that marriage is not an attractive thing. There is no need to strive for it a second time.
Your chosen one has a traumatic experience in the parental family. All our ideas about marriage are formed first of all in the parental family.
If the parents' relationship was complicated, there was no love and happiness, then where would good ideas about marriage and family come from? What if it will be the same? Then why is it necessary?
It is difficult for your chosen one to be himself in a relationship, to maintain his personal boundaries, to keep his space. In other words, he does not know how to be in a relationship. Relationships become something tiresome, the person looks for time to take a break from the relationship.
Perhaps your chosen one has not decided whether he is ready to propose to you, he has doubts. Every person has the right to doubt. If this is the case, give him time to think. Whatever decision is born, it will be the best for you too.
You will be able to find a partner who will sincerely want to be in a relationship with you.
Nowadays, there are many couples who prefer guest marriage: meeting on weekends at each other's place. People who already have experience of marriage behind them come to this.
This option allows you to be together and maintain personal space. Such a marriage is possible if both partners agree to it.
You need to pay attention to how respectfully you can accept your partner's boundaries and independence: his right to personal time, interests, meetings with friends, etc.
If you try to control your partner, ask him to report on his plans and movements, then, apparently, it is difficult for you to accept the partner's separateness and independence. In such a case, the partner may really avoid proposing to you.
In any case, if you understand that you are ready to start a family, but your partner does not propose to you, the best thing to do is to have an honest conversation with him and clarify the situation.
Only the person himself can explain to you what is stopping him from proposing to you.
