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7 Signs a Man is Using You
03.04.2023 20:06
Updated: 15.04.2023 01:48
No person deserves to be used by another for their own purposes. But in the modern world, it is not uncommon for a man not to love a woman, but simply coexist with her without any feelings, because it is convenient. The question of why representatives of the stronger sex do this, we will leave on their conscience.
Here it is more important to recognize a freeloader in your partner as quickly as possible, says Pavel Rakov , an expert of the online publication Belnovosti, a psychologist, coach, and creator of the cult training “In fact, I am smart, but I live like a fool.”
Just don't fool yourself by trying to come up with some realistic excuse for a man. Remember: any gentleman who is truly in love acts. And his words do not diverge from his actions. And he will definitely not take advantage of your kindness, emotions and ability to maintain comfort in the house.
So, take note of these seven fairly clear signs to identify an unworthy partner who prefers to sit on a woman’s neck.
1. Sexual etiquette
First of all, analyze how you are in bed. If your partner satisfies only his own desires, completely ignoring yours, this is already a warning sign! Especially when you calmly talk about what you would like. Such a person simply does not take your needs into account, which means that he is at least a typical egoist. And a completely desperate sign of using your body is if a man turns away and immediately falls asleep after stormy games in bed.
A gentleman who is truly in love prefers to talk, showering his lady with compliments. And, of course, hugging and kissing her before bed. Representatives of the stronger sex can and do show their emotions, and certainly know sexual etiquette. Don't you see anything like this? Your partner is most likely using you to satisfy his physiological needs.
2. He has paws
When a man doesn't help you around the house at all, either on weekdays or holidays, it's a clear sign of exploitation. Don't think that he can't do something or doesn't know how to do it. He just doesn't think it's necessary to overwork himself. Why? After all, there's a wife or partner who will definitely help you around the house, and absolutely free of charge.
By the way, many representatives of the stronger sex deliberately bring the wrong products when you ask them to buy something at the store. Or they vacuum and dust disgustingly, throw red underwear in the wash with white. Why? After all, they can do everything! The secret is simple: this is how men relieve themselves of responsibility for household chores. Let the woman do it, and they have the paws.
3. One-sided game
Remember when your partner took into account your desire to watch a particular movie, go to a concert of your favorite band, or paint the walls in the kitchen instead of wallpapering. If never, then, alas, you are out of luck.
A man puts his interests above yours, and therefore does not take them into account at all. Or he does it so that a compromise in some issues is achieved with the phrase: "This will be better for both of us!"
However, in the end, for some reason, only your beloved remains the winner. And yes, aren't you the one doing most of the work to solve the problem? After all, in the end, you can only do the wallpapering in the kitchen.
4. Zero help
This point is not about daily household routine. It concerns more serious issues, partly even life and death issues. Your car stalls in the middle of the street, you call a man, and he refers to being busy and advises you to call an ambulance. Or you are suffering from appendicitis, and your partner is emotionless. And you yourself have to, overcoming the pain, call the medics.
The gentleman is not even able to recommend you a service that repairs phones: "Honey, look for it yourself!" Although he recently said something in a general conversation with friends about a certain company that "cured" his smartphone. But as soon as he needs help, he instantly appears in your field of vision and asks, whines, demands, or uses you as a shoulder to cry on.
5. Away from family
Another warning sign: the man does not introduce you to his parents. And he is not in a hurry to get along with your relatives. As soon as you invite him to a family dinner, he always disappears under the pretext of being busy, having a rush job, or his mom or dad being sick. And after a while, you may find out that he actually spent that evening with friends.
Well, bad news for you: this type is simply using you. For him, you are some kind of girl for casual meetings, as they say, without taking your mind out. Therefore, it is absolutely not necessary to introduce you to your parents.
6. The windy youth
This type is always changing plans, both for the day and for the week. Are you agreeing to go for a walk on Saturday? Be prepared that this event will not take place. Instead, there will be an invitation to the cinema, then to a cafe, and then completely: "Oh, I forgot that I need to help a friend!" Your wishes will not be taken into account in this scenario.
When it's convenient for a man, then he'll show up to you. And for some reason you should greet him with open arms. But why? If he's clearly using you.
7. On female support
Carefully calculate your contribution to the shared life. Is it possible that you are dragging everything along with your salary?
Alphonses have existed at all times, but in past centuries they at least "worked off" with a gallant attitude towards their lady and nights of passion. And if your man has put all-all-all expenses on you, and also does not help with household chores, spends evenings on your favorite sofa, there is a good reason to say goodbye to him.
Of course, he will try to find a lot of reasons why he can't handle it financially. However, don't relax! Often, a gentleman uses manipulation to force a lady to support him, even paying off the loans he has taken. And it is not at all surprising if such a freeloader lives in your apartment, although he has bragged many times that he owns real estate on the other side of town.
