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Psychologist Elena Katsyuba told how to forget the pain in a relationship: advice
24.03.2023 12:00
Updated: 14.04.2023 19:57
It often happens that people meet, fall in love, and then break up.
Elena Katsyuba, psychologist, psychosomatologist, told how to forget the pain in a relationship: advice.
It may be that one of them takes it calmly and lets go of the relationship, while for the other it turns into experiences and deep trauma.
The consequences can be completely different depending on the personality type. Some develop depression, others develop a strong hatred for the opposite sex, and others swear off starting new relationships.
Often, after an unsuccessful relationship, a person begins to gain weight - on a subconscious level, he broadcasts to the world that he is ugly, unslim, unworthy and should not be approached.
Thus, he protects himself from new relationships, fearing new pain.
How to Let Go of Pain After a Toxic Relationship
If the relationship that ended was stressful, toxic for a person and he suffered a lot of trauma, his generalization scheme is activated.
It seems that all people are the same. And if one did this to me, then the story will repeat itself with others. Self-identification changes – a person believes that he is not important for this world, not needed and not worthy of being loved and happy.
And this attitude towards oneself begins to influence other areas of life.
If you have a complaint about the whole world, stop and ask yourself: "Can one person represent the entire population? Is everyone really like this?"
If you have complaints about yourself, also ask yourself the question - "Why did I believe this? Why could the actions of just one toxic person form such an opinion about myself?"
How to start living anew? It is important to remember that the most valuable thing in a relationship that has ended is the vast experience gained. You now know yourself better and have a clear idea of what you are not ready to put up with in your life together.
And when looking for a new partner, you will be able to take these points into account, and you will not step on these rakes again. You should also remember that you managed to get out of a relationship that made you unhappy. This is your victory.
Looking at the situation from this position, you will be able to gradually start life anew, if, of course, the injury was not too neglected. Otherwise, it is worth contacting a specialist.
How to Let Go of the Pain of Losing a Relationship You Were Happy In
It happens that a relationship is going well, but nevertheless the couple breaks up for one reason or another.
But the happy moments experienced together do not let go of one of them, causing pain. The reason is that the former partner closed some of your needs, for example, in care, tenderness, in a sense of confidence in the future.
After the breakup, there was a gap in this area. Ask yourself what you remember most and thus identify the need that remained unmet. Then think about how you can close these needs in your life today.
Once you do this, you will be able to let go of the relationship and the pain will go away.
In general, there is a very good phrase for all cases. And tomorrow will be neither good nor bad. Tomorrow everything will simply be different.
