How to Survive a Crisis in Marriage
Crises in marriages are very different.
Anna Ryazanova , an expert on psychology for the online publication BelNovosti, told how to survive a crisis in marriage.
But most often they arise from the fact that understanding between spouses is lost. This understanding is not lost quickly. Usually it is cumulative, when people do not hear each other.
This is a story about when one of the partners realized that the person close to him is not the way he imagined him. Or he hoped that the person would change, would do something, but this did not happen.
As a result, claims against each other accumulate. All this explodes at a certain moment, and people do not want to continue the relationship. Or they understand that this is a long-term crisis and go to family psychologists.
But this may not always be successful, because here it is important for each spouse to be especially frank with themselves: what were these expectations, were they supported by real promises, or was it just in each person's head. Trust was not formed between the people, they did not know what was in each other's souls.
Another reason for a crisis in marriage can be children. More precisely, situations when before the birth of a child, a couple spent a lot of time with each other. And with its appearance, there was a lack of sleep, fatigue, a shortage of time together.
Here we need to work on purely physical fatigue. Because you can negotiate internally as much as you like, but if there is physical fatigue, no matter whether it is the husband or the wife, bypassing basic physiological needs, the crisis will not be resolved.
Continuing this topic, we can talk about the crisis against the background of loss of sexual interest. But here too, we need to understand that it does not just happen.
Most likely, there will be ideas, expectations, faded hopes, perhaps not connected with the person at all. That is, marriage was generally imagined as something else. But the ideal picture did not come together.
It is possible to move forward alone, but it is much more pleasant to move there together. Coincidence of interests, deep goals, mutual trust – if this is formed, then the crisis will be overcome. And if not, then such a marriage will most likely be destroyed.
