Can there be love without being in love: a psychologist explained
Falling in love is often called butterflies in the stomach and purely physiological reactions that occur due to an increase in hormonal levels.
Anna Ryazanova , an expert on psychology for the online publication BelNovosti, explained whether there can be love without being in love.
By love they mean a long-term stable relationship that brings pleasure to both people, evokes deep respect and awe, despite the fact that people have been together for a long time, there is a desire to live life and grow old together.
That is, when each of the "participants in love" looks into the future, he sees himself there together with his beloved. Therefore, here is an interesting question: can there be love without being in love?
Falling in love as a hormonal phase often does not develop into a stable relationship, as many hope.
Falling in love is given to us as spontaneity, something we don’t work on, but for love we still make efforts, some internal work is done with our own fears, expectations, in order to be able to hear the person next to us, understand, respect him and be sincerely interested in what is inside him.
This implies conscious internal work, not coercion. And it is preceded by a conscious decision to change your behavior strategies in order to be close to the person. So that this "close" is safe and comfortable.
Therefore, if at the initial stage people have strong sympathy and a complete coincidence of life goals, interests, a desire to go further together, without a mind-blowing feeling, loss of orientation, tachycardia, hormonal imbalance, then there can be long-term love.
At first, the partners simply feel the joy of recognition, the joy of deep sympathy. This is what becomes the foundation for love.
