What to do if the older child is capricious because of jealousy towards the younger one: loving parents do this

26.10.2024 16:30

Often, mothers and fathers who have a new baby in their family hear something like this from their older child: "Why do you feed him with a spoon, but not me? I want to do the same!"

Parents mistakenly consider such behavior of older children to be whims, but in fact this is not the case.

According to experts, this is a case of regression.

This is a normal phenomenon. It occurs when the older child notices that now everyone is "spinning" around the baby and he feels the desire to be the center of attention too.

What to do in such a situation? As a rule, adults begin to explain to the older child that he is already big. Most of them notice that this action is ineffective.

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Instead, it is worthwhile, on the contrary, to indulge the wishes of the older child.

Agree with him by saying: “You are my little one, of course I will feed you with a spoon,” and actually feed him.

Asks for a pacifier? And here agree - buy an inexpensive pacifier and give it to the child. Soon he himself will get tired of it, and he will decide to stop.

And remember: very often the conditions for jealousy are the result of the activities of the parents themselves, who cancel the childhood of the older child due to the appearance of the younger child.

Try to give your children equal amounts of time and attention, and also allow the older one to be a child for a little while longer.

Author: Elena Shimanovskaya Editor of Internet resources