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How to Criticize a Child Correctly: A Common Mistake Parents Make
15.09.2023 00:01
Correct criticism helps a person see his mistakes and find ways to correct them.
But nagging and unfair reproaches only get in the way.
An adult who is only reproached and accused of something will feel nothing but anger and resentment.
Children behave the same way: incorrect criticism from parents can cause a child to have lower self-esteem and lose trust in loved ones.
Unfortunately, when criticizing their sons and daughters, mothers and fathers often make a gross mistake.
How not to criticize a child
Expressing dissatisfaction with the child's behavior, many parents begin to criticize not the actions, but the child himself.
“You’re so clumsy!”, “You can’t do anything”, “You have no talent”, “You’re lazy”... All these phrases are unlikely to make a child realize their mistakes and start correcting them.
Most likely, the child will simply be offended. Perhaps the baby will develop a sense of guilt, which clearly does not contribute to initiative and determination.
How can you criticize a child?
It is necessary to point out the specific mistake made. It is not worth discussing the child's personality, character and skills.
Instead of saying, "You don't know how to behave," it's better to say, "In this case, you did the wrong thing."
It is also advisable to point out not only the shortcomings, but also something positive. Instead of saying, "You can't sing," it is better to say, "The beginning of the performance was not bad, but the rest needs to be worked on."
