Why You Shouldn't Promise Your Child Gifts for Good Grades: Advice for Parents

02.06.2023 05:20

Every parent wants their child to study well at school and gain knowledge.

Wanting to motivate their son or daughter, some mothers and fathers promise gifts for good studies.

However, this strategy should be abandoned. You don't need to tell your child: "We'll buy you a computer if you only get top marks this term."

The fact is that such an approach can only harm the student.

Why Promising Rewards for Good Grades Is Bad

The main reason is the substitution of motivation. The child will try not for the sake of knowledge at all.

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Most likely, the student's goal will be to get the highest grade just for the sake of the promised gift.

It is worth remembering that a good grade can be obtained not only as a result of good assimilation of the material, but also by simply cheating.

The second reason is the fear of losing the award. It is possible that a student who understands that he cannot get an "excellent" will throw a tantrum right in the classroom.

Pleas, complaints, or even threats against the teacher may be used. Such behavior will negatively affect the reputation of the student and his parents.

Therefore, there is no need to promise gifts for good grades. However, this does not mean that the child cannot be rewarded for efforts and excellent studies. Only conversations about this cannot be conducted in advance. Let the gift be a surprise.

Author: Sergey Tumanov Internet resource editor