“You are the best!”, “You are so gifted!”, “You have talent!” - many parents are used to saying these phrases to their child.
Some mothers and fathers are sure that emphasizing giftedness only has a positive effect on their child.
It would seem that such praise should make the child self-confident.
But in reality, parents who constantly call their child talented and “the best” are doing their son or daughter a disservice.
There is no point in talking about the child’s exceptionality even if the child really has some talent.
The thing is that a son or daughter may get the following impression: “I’m already gifted, so everything will work out for me easily and quickly, I don’t need to try.”
But in order to achieve success, you need to constantly work and improve.
This must be done in such a way as not to kill the child’s motivation.
In praise it is necessary to emphasize that success was achieved through hard work, and if you stop trying, then the skills will be lost and the talent will be wasted.
Phrases like “You tried hard, that’s why you succeeded” and “Well done, if you keep working, you’ll become even better” will have the right effect on your child.